Why Self Esteem is Overrated

Today, I’m curled up with a cup of Yogi Tea and my computer learning as much about Self Love as I can fit into one day.  I promised you a month of “Showing Love” in honor of Valentine’s Day, so I’m diving in. First topic: Self Esteem. It’s one of those things we all hold on to like a lifeboat. Telling ourselves and others that we gotta have it.  But, we have a tendency to go overboard. With everything. But specifically with this concept. Let’s look at the definition: i-love-myself (more…)

Goal Setting Tips with YFE: Erin Anacker

It’s official.  After today the “Newness” of the year will fade away. Although goal setting is a year round deal for me, this will bring an end to my incessant harping on the theme of Setting Goals for the New Year. (Hold for applause)

Before I switch to a new focus in February, I wanted to share this interview with Erin Anacker of PixologyRules. It’s a long one, so grab a cup of tea, a notebook and skip to about 10 minutes in for the juicy stuff. This video originally aired in Young Female Entrepreneur’s Thursday Livestream.

Success Tip: Whether you run your own business or work for someone else….BE AN ENTREPRENEUR! Work it like you own it, run it like you mean to take over the world.

This vid is relevant to how you work. If you checked out the Big Hairy Authentic Goal Planner, then surely you noticed that only about 1/10 is focused on work. There’s more to life and Erin tells us about that.  What I really loved about Erin is how many times in 20 minutes she uses the word INTENTION.  Count ’em.  She clearly suggest that above all, be intentional about doing what makes you feel great, rather than “shoulding” all over yourself.  Here are a few other nuggets I picked up on:

1. Give freely – Kick competition to the curb

Collaboration is a big deal. Sometimes we get caught up in being the best on the team, keeping all the clients to ourselves or whatever we think it takes to get to the top. In reality, that just causes more angst. Instead, embrace your competitors, learn from them, love them, share with them. The Universe has a way of reminding me of what is true.  So as I’m writing this post, my ADHD kicked in, and I hopped over to Facebook just in time to catch sight of this status post from Marianne Williamson, author of A Return to Love.

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2. Connect

Erin suggested that she connects with one new person a week. Whether it’s a coworker that you’ve never really talked to, a manager that you look up to or another business owner who you think is doing something cool for the world. It’s a great idea to make these authentic connections, without any attachment to how it turns out. What do I mean by that? Don’t go into it thinking about how this person can help you or what you can get out of it. Just show up, tell them what made you reach out  and try to get a sense of who they really are. Trust me, good things will happen without you ever having to ask.

3. Set Boundaries

A more practical tip for those wanting to be productive, is to simply set boundaries in your work day. Do you check email 50 times a day? Answer the phone every time it rings? STOP IT! Don’t let the electrons control you, man. They’ll take over you mind. It’s a conspiracy!  No, but really. Set hours in your day during which you’ll do things like check email and make/take calls. I contacted a web designer yesterday who replied, “Sure I’d love to talk. My conference hours are 2-3 6-7:30.”  Much respect to her for setting clear boundaries. That tells me that she’s muy productive, and I like that in a contractor. If you’re the type that forgets to take a break, use InstantBoss to remind yourself to step away at regular intervals throughout the day.

Okay! Enough of my chatter, watch the video; learn to be successful by setting goals. If you haven’t downloaded the Big Hairy Authentic Goal Planner, on Friday at 12pm it’s going in the vault!

The First 5 Things I LOVE about Lena Dunham

Last night, I watched the Golden Globes. I normally don’t because I’m really not a big movie/tv person, but I happened to have a friend/client that was working backstage, so that kinda piqued my interest. And I’m glad it did, because I got to see Lena Dunham take home two awards for the HBO show GIRLS. If you haven’t seen it, you should give it a try. It’s one on a very short list of reasons I regret not having cable in my new apartment.

So, here are the first 5, of soooo many reasons why I’m a huge fan of Lena Dunham and Girls: (more…)

Is Goal Setting Reserved for Your Work Life?

One of the most painful questions that I’ve ever been asked:

“What are you hobbies?”goalsetting

Why? Because, it makes me squirm. My go-to answer has always been “Work. Work is my hobby, because it’s all that I have time for.” What an awful life I was living! I woke up, went to work, came home, did more work, slept, then started it all over again. During those days, I abandoned the other aspects of my life: family, spiritual growth, community involvement. All of these were a distant second to climbing the corporate ladder.  (more…)

Clarifying Values to Live a More Authentic Life

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In today’s episode, I have a fun, transformative exercise that will help to clarify your true values, so that you can live a compelling life of significance. When you clarify your values, it’s a million times easier to understand what your destiny in life is, or what you want it to be. Defining your purpose is one of the most powerful tools I can offer, and one of the most versatile skills you’ll ever have. (more…)

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