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How to increase productivity by accepting help when offered

“It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it.” -Lena Horne

How do you carry your load? Do you accept help from others or let it pile up on your own shoulders? Are you hesitant to accept help from others,  even if they have been put in your path specifically to provide that assistance? Why?

What makes you so hesitant to accept help? How would your life be different if you changed? Many of us tell ourselves that we cannot accept help because:

“In the time it takes to explain, I could’ve done it myself”

“If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.”

“This is important, I cannot trust this task to anyone else.”

These thoughts are all enemies of your personal productivity.  They are the little demons that keep you from achieving all the things you have dreamed of.  Humans are made to coexist here on Earth.  None of us could survive without at least one other. Why were we made this way? So that we could support each other and grow…together.

I challenge you to investigate the feeling you experience the next time someone offers help. Do you feel anxious, protective or even offended. Think about these feelings and where they really come from.

Consider this scenario: You’ve been assigned a high visibility project at work.  If you “get it right” you’ll get the attention of your leaders and possibly a bonus, promotion or other accolade.  A coworker who has expertise in the work that the project will require offers to help.  Before giving it any thought, you tell them that you’ve got it all under control and walk away. What feeling have you experienced? Do you feel that this coworker just wants a piece of the action? Or maybe, they think you’re not capable of doing it on your own.  Your rejection of their assistance comes from your own selfishness or self-doubt.  Short of your coworker announcing their intentions, you can never be certain why they’ve offered help. What you can be certain of is that you need the help and they have the skills.

Once you’ve investigated your feelings, the next step is to let it go.  If you discover that you reject help out of fear or self-doubt, you then need to decide if that negative feeling provides any positive benefit. If not, let it go. Make the decision that you’ll stop assigning your own assumptions to others based on your fear, self-doubt or selfishness.  In the example above,  your coworker could very well have offered help because they are passionate about the making the project successful or simply because they know they have the skills you need. With their help – you get a better result, without it you – you get overworked, stressed and possibly embarrassed when the project doesn’t turn out well.

So, the next time you are offered a helping hand and feel the immediate impulse to reject it, STOP. Investigate your feelings, then let them go. You’ll be a better more productive person as a result.



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